In all relationships you always will come across an argument and we end up finding something to complain about. Arguing are some times good for couples, because you end up understanding more about them and it shows how they really feel. but it's not good to argue frequently that wouldn't be healthy for your relationship. In most relationships it usually start off perfectly like they way you wanted, and thinking you would send your whole life with him or her. It seems like you would do anything for each other but later on thing changes, it could be you have lost feeling for that person or you might just feel they some how get on your nerves. If one person in the relationship decides to stop showing any effort of being a couple then surely the other will complain. One complaint they might have is how they cant be that one special person as they were the first time you meet them. In my opinion as one obtain what they wanted it would feel like there is no need to try any harder. As you see this result you try to change them for the better and that's when you start to complain. If he or she is trying really hard to fix their mistakes then it should mean they are really committed in being with their lover. Trying to change them for the better is good but it is even better to accept them for who they are. It is important to accept the result because if not then who you really like is not the person you are trying to change. I once tried to change my boyfriend for the better, i wanted him to do more for me i thought nothing was good enough. As i ask him to change one thing and as he changed i started pointing out more mistakes, i found myself asking him to change over and over. I had realized what i was doing was selfish and what i was looking for was just something different, i had tried to change him into something he was not, when i am the one who liked him for who he was.
Real Love is loving someone for who they really are and not what they pretend to be. Most people try to be different just to turn into the ideal person of what the other is searching for. If someone is trying to pretend to be who they are not then they wouldn't be happy like that. The Real Self is not the ideal it is acting like how you really are, a person who makes mistakes and have weaknesses. Being who you really are you should never be unhappy with yourself of what flaws you have. Loving someone for who they really are and being your true self it leads to happiness. Have you ever had an ideal person who you dream of being with? When I was little I always wanted to marry a guy who is rich, nice and someone who makes me laugh.i thought i found someone who fit that description, he seems like he doesn't make any mistakes and would always do everything i wanted to do, he made everyone happy, and cared about everyone. At one point i had noticed he had flaws but he never liked showing it. The main problem he had was he didn't like talking about anything that would embarrass him. Sometimes the ideal person for you might not be the one who you want to be with.
Spending time with your love ones are very important, doing so you get to know more about them and having them by your side you can always feel safe and comfortable. When being in a relationship most people wouldn't like to be with their love ones to much they would want there own space on the other hand i like being with the person even if i see him everyday. It's not only in relationship, it is also good to spend time with your family or other relatives, friends and others who are also important in your life.
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